Suppose there is a person, who is wealthy, intelligence and average looking, but you don’t have any romantic feeling about the person. Under certain circumstance you may need to marry this person. what do you do in a situation like above?
How deeply romantic feelings are involving for successful marriage? What would happen if you married this person?
Well…as I described in an earlier article, romance does give a real push for very beginning in a relationship or even in a marriage. In any happy marriage, intimacy is enjoyed, and it needs to be there. But it’s not enough for long lasting relationship. Gradually we need more and more valid reasons for keep this relationship continues. So in hand, if you could start a relationship or marriage without a romantic feeling for someone, we cannot exactly say, this not gonna workout. It depends on what you do in the relationship. If you can transform this person into the character you want them to be, it will be a good reason for have a feeling about him or her. Other major thing is try to avoid being judgmental and don't give up on all the efforts you make to change them to what you yearn for. Or accept them as they are. Be understanding and start, looking carefully at the qualities that attracted you to this person, You are likely to get the spark where it has been hiding.
So on the other hand, though you try hard to change that person, how you want them to be or accept them as they are, it may not work due to lack of other reasons. And don’t forget that romantic feelings are refreshing the relationship time to time. On this condition, Husband or boy friend feels a special or unique attachment to his wife or girl friend because of the attraction he has towards her and the same applies to the wife or girl friend. This not happens without a romance. Hence, romantic attraction must be there in a progressive and promising relationship besides the other qualities. Not only that, but also if you not have any romantic feelings about them, it’s naturally start failing to give that person their marital due (basically sex) eventually forcing them to go outside marriage to seek and get what you are denying for them.
However, one day if you have to marry a person, you don’t have any romance for, effective communication is a must. Let your partner know how you appreciate every effort they put forth to make the marriage work, and lovingly help them overcome the barriers you are seeing.
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