Falling in love is a wonderful experience which happens between two people. But, have you ever thought, why do people fall in love? And for what?
There may be many answers for this question. But the main reason and the natural reason is as follows. If you think deeply, Love is the main factor for evolution of the mankind. Why do we say so? When we grow up, our body is changing physically as well as chemically. All these factors lead us to reproduction. But as a civilized human we are unable to do it everywhere, or with every person like animals do. To avoid such uncivilized behaviors, we are blessed with the feeling called “Love”. So the first step is to find a proper person to love. Afterwards two people fall in love. If everything goes in a proper manner, next step in love is to get married. (Or live together as has been happening in ancient era and still). After marriage, if everything goes perfect as expected, next step is to have babies. That’s what the nature expects from us. So simply, people are falling in love and produce another human being (simply known as reproduction). When we help continue our evolution on this earth, naturally we are benefited by the pleasure and happiness for being loved. That is the practical concern for all of us, i.e. Happiness and Pleasure. To gain this happiness and pleasure, we engage in the process of loving. In a way, love means the bait, which put in to us by nature, for evolution of mankind... All of us want to swallow this bait happily. And the other fascinating part is that we couldn’t do reproduction at all ages, effectively. We do it effectively, during age range from 16 to 50 years in the same manner as many of people do love effectively, during these ages. So these two factors are going together for continuation of the evolution of mankind.
Other reason is that, as humans we can’t live alone. We need others’ company. When you think about the human race, from the very beginning, humans lived as groups. When evolution happened continuously, in very long time period, and at the same time, people were being civilized; these groups became smaller and smaller until two people were formed as sub groups. It’s simply a couple. So within the group, there were subgroups and, they were called families. At the same time our thinking power, activities were eventually increased. Always we wanted a perfect partner for sharing things, like: ideas, activities, feelings etc. When this happens throughout for a long period, that requirement became a norm, for every human being’s natively. That’s why we seek a proper partner always, for sharing our feelings and activities. When we find a suitable person for this process, we say “I love you”. Then intimacy gets building eventually between these couples. Further, when time lapses we become aged and our outlook forms gray. Therefore we need some company to spend our aged life. We need some assistance from one another mutually. If we have a partner we could help each other to spend our aged life, more easily without getting isolated. But, as a young couple, we never felt and acted in that way. Nature gives us all the chances to spend out life well in numerous ways, at different stages in our lives. As a baby and a child, our parents would care us. Subsequently, as an adult, we could care each other as a couple. So love and intimacy is one secret way to protect us. We feel love as a feeling, and in this way it’s a guardian for our entire life and it would care us, for mental and physical wellbeing. Hence “Love and affection” is a “sine qua none” for our short lived life.
