Today in the world, after dating most of the couples, the next step is the living together with a committed relationship. Did you ever think why this happened? People apparently think compatibility cannot be tested without the actual experience of a marriage without any legal bonds. It’s like a trial run of the marriage. However this has a good side as well as bad side.
Living together has more freedom to select his or her legal life partner. Living under one roof is more far away from the dating. It will reveal more personal details about each other’s. In here you can’t hide your real situation. From this you could easily decide what the next fate of your relationship is. This will ease the life of course. So if this period went wrong, relationship would end up like “Turning off a light”. Not much hard feelings. But in a marriage you can’t just “turn off this light”. And of course, in here you have more freedom and the very less responsibilities for both of you. Specially for men. Generally, living together is not much empowering for women. It places them in a vulnerable position, emotionally and materially, and Women generally see moving in together as a step toward marriage, but men tend to regard the relationship as more of a sexual opportunity without the bonds and responsibilities of commitment.
In living together, love will not take much place like in the dating or marriage. Instead, sex and independency will take place. On dating always you have a hope for future; you have more curiosity about the next step of your relationship or what’s going on next. And also Dating will keep alive your love, and in a marriage too. When you have a bond from a marriage, you always do things to your relationship with the responsibilities. And every time love will take the place. After all you may pay more attention to care about your marriage. Coz’ you know it’s not just a living together.
And also I believe, a couple who get married after living together, is more tend to be divorced than the others. It’s because, they know how to survive after the divorce, or how to face the society after the divorce. They had good experience, about the independencies. So in one hand living together is more like to be prepared for divorce rather than the marriage.
But not being living together, could we decide our next step of a relationship? Of course you can. You have plenty of opportunities for that in the dating. You could talk anything, you could do anything and you name it. Only different is you not live under one roof with your better half. However, if you want more freedom and fewer responsibilities and without bonds, only relationship with all other benefits, answer is living together. Couples must decide what works best for them.
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